Adultery Wife - Advice to a wife betrayed by adultery, and to all women who might have to deal with adultery in their marriages

Oral sex is infidelity.

So is cyber sex.

It s not a problem of love. The men who have the most affairs are very much in love with their wives.

Faithfulness is not in your genes. It s learned. And it can be relearned.

Love can survive the betrayal, but only if both of you are committed to it.

You don t have to automatically forgive your husband, but you have to commit to letting go of the resentment.

Anger, outrage, and fury are all natural, healthy reactions to betrayal. Go ahead and throw something. Preferably something that s his. Let yourself be angry so that you can eventually move past the anger.

Hurt and despair are also natural, healthy reactions. Allow yourself to feel pain. Allow your heart to bleed a little. You ve got to let yourself experience the emotional lows before the healing process can begin.

Don t put your head in the sand - be able to recognize if your husband starts lying again.

Adultery recovery is a two way street, but don t give anything without getting something back from him.

Recognize that your marriage was in a bad enough state to contribute to the affair in the first place. Commit to making your marriage better than it was before.