Divorce Infidelity - Divorce after infidelity is not the only possible conclusion. Divorce is just one possibility.

Divorce often follows infidelity. Indeed, they are often inseparable events. But does the initial act of cheating or the breakup that results make anyone happy?

The spouse that was cheated on reacts to the affair as if kicked in the stomach. "How could he(she) do that to me?" Gut-wrenching pain is induced by adultery. Splitting up seems to be the only answer.

Yet, is it?

It s easy to forget that very few people actually plan to have an affair. Adultery is the result of accidents, chance meetings between the cheating spouse and a person who seems to intuitively understand the cheater s unmet emotional needs.

The cheating spouse instinctively reaches out to the person who possibly can fulfill those unmet needs that has left the cheater weak and vulnerable.

If the suffering spouse recognizes that the affair wasn t part of a plan, the spouse can begin to heal instead of considering divorce. Adultery hurts, but can be healed. Healing brings forgiveness. It won t be an easy road, but the reward at the end of the road is worth it.

Instead of a painful, destructive divorce in response to infidelity, the reward is a marriage that is better and stronger than it was before the affair. That, certainly, is worth all the hard work.