Husband Infidelity - If you suspect your husband of infidelity, you may be tempted to confront him right away. Here are some things to think about before you do.

You suspect your husband of infidelity. The telltale signs are all there - a new haircut, unexplained absences, withdrawals from the checking account. You re gearing up to confront him about the affair. This is precisely the time when you should wait.

First, you need to allow yourself to be angry. Don t try to bottle it in - a spouses s betrayal is a serious, devastating occurrence, and you really need to allow yourself the healthy reaction of anger. Do whatever you need to do to blow off the steam. It s perfectly normal to be angry.

By allowing yourself to experience the anger, the confrontation with your spouse over his affair will not be controlled by your anger.

Next, before jumping into a confrontation over the adultery, take some time to reflect and ask yourself some serious questions. What do you want to accomplish by confronting your spouse? Do you want him to admit guilt over the affair? Do you want him to deny it? Do you want to end your marriage? Or do you want to try and save it?

You won t know the answers to all of these questions, or maybe even any of them. But simply by asking the questions, quietly to yourself, you can prepare for the confrontation with your husband. The discussion can then take a more structured and calmer path, than if you had jumped into an angry confrontation.