Wife Infidelity - What was behind a wife s infidelity? Looking at the real questions behind a woman s affair.

In cases of a wife s infidelity, the "why" questions are often the most difficult ones for the husband to grapple with. A wife s adultery raises so many questions, not just the "why" ones. Betrayed husbands ask these questions endlessly. Consider a common question:

Why didn t she forsake all others?

Unfortunately, for the husband to be able to understand his wife s affair, and subsequently forgive his wife, he really needs to ask the "what" question.

And it s not the "What did I do wrong" question, but it s close.

One after another, experts agree that an affair is the result of emotional needs not being met in the marriage. Many men are truly ignorant of the deep emotional needs of their wives.

Sometimes, a woman accidentally "falls" into an affair. She meets that "perfect" man who appears to fulfill her deep emotional needs. The wife certainly isn t innocent of doing wrong, but her husband can begin to understand the origins of his spouse s unhappiness if he understands that he wasn t meeting her emotional needs.

Thus, the real question that needs answering is, "What emotional needs of my wife did I not meet?"

If the husband can honestly reflect and address this question, the ability to forgive grows. Then, the couple can really start to address the underlying issues behind the wife s infidelity.