Don't work alone to save a marriage - it takes two to break it, and it takes two to make it.

Saving your marriage, above all else, requires the full participation of both spouses. One person can t do all the work. Even though your spouse, by having an affair, caused severe damage the to the relationship, you can t expect all the effort expended toward saving the relationship to be exerted by your spouse.

You have to accept responsibility for improving your relationship.

Your spouse cheated. Yes. Your spouse is guilty of damaging your marriage. Yes. Your spouse needs to fix the problem. NO!

Your spouse can't save it all alone, and neither can you

In order to rescue your feelings for one another, you have to figure out why the affair happened. In order to figure out why the affair happened, you and your spouse need to examine your entire relationship. That may be a difficult prospect, but a necessary one.

Once you ve honestly examined your past relationship, and have addressed the reasons why the affair took place, you can move past the affair, and start the process of rebuilding. Save your relationship and make it stronger, so that there won t be a next time.