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Reasons to Stop a Divorce
If your marriage is so bad you're contemplating divorce, chances are good that there's a lot of pain, resentment, bitterness, conflict, and neglect in your relationship. Most couples don't really want a divorce; they just want a happy marriage, but they just can't see how that's possible.
Even if you've already started the divorce process, there are good reasons not to divorce.
- It's expensive. The divorce itself will cost you thousands of dollars in lawyers' fees, filing fees, court costs, mediation, and reams of legal paperwork. One of you will have to find another place to live, and both of you will find your income dropping significantly.You'll have to have two sets of birthday and Christmas presents for the kids.
- It's bad for the kids. People say children can adjust to anything, but studies show that isn't always true. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry says, "children are invariably frightened and confused by the threat to their security." This security can be emotional, family, or economic. They also miss the parent who is absent, and often act out those emotions as teenagers.
- Most marriages can be saved. If you tried counseling and it didn't work, try another counselor. If you're bored with your life, try doing some things differently. If you don't know what needs to be changed, ask someone. Many people give up before they've truly tried everything, but most marriages can be saved if both partners are truly committed.