To stop a divorce, you have to be psychologically prepared. Here s how to tell if you re ready.

Having doubts? If you are at all unsure, or have a lingering wish to work things out, you can halt the proceedings. It s not going to be easy - for some people, the simpler path will be to proceed with, rather than postpone what they think is inevitable. Others are just not ready to give up on their marriage.

There are many signs that will indicate if you belong to the latter group, that you are a person who needs and wants to work on their marriage. If you are considering counseling, you should definitely end the legal action.

After all, it s easier to postpone a divorce before it happens, than it is to try and pick up the broken pieces afterward.

If you think you want to save your marriage, there are some things you should be prepared to do:

Be committed. Once you ve made the decision, stick with it. It s not fair to either you or your spouse to waiver over this decision.

Be prepared to work hard. There isn t going to be a simple button to press. It took a lot of effort for the two of you get into deep trouble in the first place, and it s going to take a lot of effort to get out of it.

Be prepared to start alone. Just because you are ready to give things another change, that doesn t mean your spouse is ready. Even though it takes two to make marriage work, and two to break marriage apart, you need to be ready to take the first steps by yourself.

If you feel you have the commitment, the perseverance, and the courage needed, then you are ready to stop the divorce.