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Free Advice to Stop a Divorce

Even if you and your spouse have begun divorce proceedings, it's possible to stop a divorce. The first thing you have to ask yourself, however, is why you want to bring a halt to the proceedings. If you want to stop the divorce in order to make life harder for your soon-to-be-ex, then it's probably best to continue with it and try to make a fresh start on your own.

But maybe you want to stop the divorce because you've had some time to let your anger and resentment fade a little. Or maybe you realize that with some work, you could get past whatever issues have separated you and your spouse. If either of those things are the case, then it's probably a good thing to put a stop to the proceedings now, while you still can.

Here's some free advice on how to stop a divorce.

Call your lawyer. Tell him or her that you're having doubts about going through with the divorce. Tell them that you want more time to think about it.
Talk to your pastor or a trusted friend. Someone who knows your history and knows your marriage can help you decide if your marriage can or should be given a second chance.
Talk to your spouse. This should probably be a face to face conversation, rather than a phone call or a text. Simply tell her or him, “I think we're moving too fast with our divorce.” Slowing things down gives everyone a chance to rethink their options.

People don't always realize how difficult the divorce process can be, and they often feel that once it's started, it can't be stopped. But it can be stopped with just a few phone calls and your willingness to convey your doubts.