If you re thinking about stopping your divorce, give some thought to other behaviors that need stopping.

Your divorce is the result of an accumulation of behaviors. The purpose of this article is to look at a few behaviors you might have been exhibiting towards your spouse. Eliminate a few of these behaviors, and you may be able to save your relationship.

You need to look critically at these problematic behaviors from your spouse s point of view, and recognize why they are destructive.

Your spouse doesn t need criticism. When you point out to your spouse that he is loading the dishwasher wrong, you may honestly be trying to help. To your spouse, this kind of behavior is more likely seen as destructive, the kind that can lead to divorce. Stop the criticism.

Many marriages can be saved if each spouse learned not to criticize the other.

Your spouse doesn t need a parent. Suppose your spouse decided to out with a friend after work on Friday night. What she doesn t need is you badgering her for details on who she will be with and where she is going. That behavior can only make her feel like a child. Certainly, that behavior isn t an inducement to stopping divorce!

A better choice would be to wish her a nice time, and remind her to take her cell phone in case of emergencies. That tells her you re concerned. When she comes home, ask her if she had a nice time, but don t press.

Many marriages can be saved if spouses acted like spouses and not like parents.

Your spouse doesn t need another child. Are you the type os spouse who doesn t know where anything is? Depending on your spouse for every little detail of life in the house can be draining. Your spouse doesn t want a full grown child! Being married means being a full and willing participant

Many marriages can be saved if spouses ceased treating dependence as a form of affection.

Recognizing that your spouse doesn t need, or appreciate, some of your destructive behaviors can help you on the road to stopping your divorce.