Need help to stop divorce? Start by recognizing what your spouse does need!

In another article, we discussed stopping destructive behaviors to stop your divorce. On the flip side, saving your relationship may be a matter of considering starting some new behaviors. This article discusses implementing new behaviors to address your spouse s needs.

One of the reasons your marriage is in trouble may be your failure to recognize some basic needs your spouse has. Recognizing these needs, and acting upon them, may be key to saving your marriage!

You ve got to understand your spouse s emotional needs and be ready to provide for those needs in order to stop your divorce. Consider the case of Carla and Mike. Mike was a successful editor, who d received numerous accolades and awards for his work. His wife Carla, an unpublished novelist, did not understand that Mike s greatest need was for recognition from his wife! Carla thought that because Mike received so much praise from colleagues and associates, she didn t need to pat him on the back.

Wishing to save their relationship, Carla took the time to evaluate Mike s needs. She realized that she d failed to understand that while Mike appreciated recognition from others, he needed it from his wife. Once Carla grapsed that little nuance, she was able to freely give him the praise he needed, and they were able to start over.

One of the first steps you should take in and saving your marriage is to determine your spouse s emotional needs. Chances are, you didn t even know what they were. Yet, satisfying your spouse s emotional needs is imperative to a happy marriage.